Prep the cabbage: Remove any tough outer leaves. Cut the cabbage into quarters through the core.
Slice out the core, then thinly shred the leaves. Aim for even, ribbon-like slices so they cook at the same rate.
Make the sauce: In a small bowl, stir together soy sauce, rice vinegar, and honey or maple syrup if using. Set aside.
This quick mix balances salty, tangy, and lightly sweet notes.
Heat the pan: Set a large skillet or wok over medium-high heat. Add the neutral oil. When it shimmers, add the ginger and garlic.
Cook 20–30 seconds, stirring, just until fragrant. Do not brown.
Stir-fry the cabbage: Add the shredded cabbage and a pinch of salt. Toss well to coat in the aromatics.
Cook 3–5 minutes, stirring often, until the cabbage softens but still has bite. If the pan looks dry, add a teaspoon of water to help it steam.
Season and finish: Pour in the soy-vinegar mixture and add the toasted sesame oil. Toss to combine.
Sprinkle in the sesame seeds and a pinch of red pepper flakes if you like heat. Taste and adjust with more vinegar for brightness, soy for salt, or a squeeze of citrus.
Serve: Transfer to a serving bowl. Top with sliced scallions and a few extra sesame seeds.
Serve warm as a side, or spoon over rice or noodles for a quick meal.